TRUST

I've read a number of posts tonight and just finished talking to a friend who has been hurt by someone whom she trusted who let her down. She is someone who trusts easily and didn't see the warning signs. (Like he talked badly about his former girlfriend). I do not trust easily. After a marriage to an alcoholic, I find it difficult to trust. I also think it is hard for us as bipolar people to trust other people. I am never sure what people are thinking about me because I am bipolar.

Then there are those that abuse trust. Because we bipolars tend to be sensitive I think we take things very personal. And I believe that sometimes people sense that in us and take advantage of it. They know that calling us names, or making remarks about our weight (many of us have that problem from our meds) will really cut deeply. That's dirty pool. Somehow we need to get a little tough. Those comments don't make it true. They don't make us bad people. And we shouldn't take it from anyone. Making comments like that is a major violation of trust.

Too often we are quick to trust others with our feelings only to be hurt. Trust has to be earned. If you meet someone who has a story about how bad their expartner was...be wary..You may be hearing a story that is going to be repeated on you down the road! One thing's for sure, people who don't talk about trust issues regarding their expartners are usually good trust risks. And avoid the ones with the green monster syndrome. Jealousy is the arch enemy of trust and a good relationship has to be built on trust. Just a few thoughts from my pen.