OLD FRIENDS = over 14 years

I ENVY PEOPLE WHO HAVE OLD FRIENDS. Seems like everyone has a ton of old friends that they went to school with or they've lived in the neighborhood with forever. I never lived anywhere long enough as a "child" to establish any longstanding friendships. And the few I made in the last year of high school were lost when we graduated. I wasn't a neighborhood or schoolroom mom. Then there is the fact that I make friends with men better than with women and that just doesn't always look politically or socially correct depending on where you were at the time. Although I'm glad to see that is changing. In my job, I was transferred four times which meant a change of neighborhoods, new offices, new people everywhere.. I had the same friends at work But when I retired in 1995, I pretty much left those friends at the office. They were still working. I was disabled and we had nothing in common anymore. And the friends you make at work in a major corporation tend to get transferred anyway. Soon that good friend of yours here in Houston is now living in London.

I don't know if it's a bipolar trait to mislay friends but it seems like I have trouble holding on to friends once I make them. Bipolar people tend to change jobs, move, generally not be in the same place where it is difficult to be around the same friends plus at least for me I am always involved in this and that and the other activity making it rough to find time for the friendship. I would be interested to know if this is true for most bipolar people. Once the moving starts, then keeping up communication becomes even harder. Although nowadays with email, it might be easier. During my llifetime, sans computers, you were pretty much stuck with letters and phone service and if it was long distance, that leaves letters.

Don't misunderstand. I have some friends and always have had and been a friend. It's not as serious as I had let on a minute ago. I just don't have old friends. Well not til I came to Texas. Here I have some old friends. I've been here for 14 years and I have friends I've known that long and that's an old friend. Maybe it's just that folks are friendlier in Texas.

But I lied a little, I do have a couple of old friends I've known for 24 years...now those are some old friends from work,, and you know what, they're Texans. And one other thing: highschool! The Valedictorian that took me to the Senior Prom, good lookin too, well he's my oldest friend.